FBI chief Kash Patel gets engaged to girlfriend 19 years younger than him. FBI Director Kash Patel got engaged to his longtime girlfriend, 27-year-old country singer Alexis Wilkins. Wilkins announced the news on X with a black-and-white photo showing her diamond ring, writing, “Went and got the law involved.” Patel, who is 46 years old, reposted it with heart and ring emojis. The couple met in 2022 and began dating in early 2023.